Kristen’s Story

Dear Birthmother,

I can imagine the difficult time you are going through right now: The questions, the guilt, the fear of the future, the heart wrenching decisions that need to be made… I know what you are facing, because I have been there. I faced many sleepless nights and emotional breakdowns throughout my pregnancy. But in the end, I know I made the right decision for myself and my baby.

My name is Kristen and I was seventeen when I found out I was pregnant. I was just beginning my senior year of high school. I lived in a tiny apartment with my father and I was working hard just to get by. The baby’s father was not supportive and I truly felt all alone. My life was difficult enough for one person; would it be fair for me to try to raise a baby?

I began to explore the idea of adoption. My family wanted me to keep the baby and couldn’t understand how I could even think of giving her up. That was one of the biggest obstacles I had to overcome. I wanted to do what was best for my child and me, but it was hard to hurt the people I loved. I struggled daily with my decision for the duration of my pregnancy. Even though I had many doubts, I was sure of one thing – I loved my child. In the end it was clear to me that I had to make sure she had what she needed to be happy and healthy. And that’s exactly what I did…

kristenSamantha was born on February 23 and five days later she was placed in an open adoption with a loving couple that I had chosen. The adoptive couple and I have a wonderful relationship. I visit with her every couple of months and I have had the incredible opportunity to watch this beautiful little girl grow. I know her first words, when she took her first steps, what foods she likes and her favorite toys. I have lots of pictures of her in my home. Even though I am not raising Samantha, I will always love her and she will forever be a part of my life.

Things are going great for me, too. I have now finished school and I have an excellent job. I’m newly engaged to a wonderful man and I am surrounded by loving and supportive friends and family. My life is full and I really couldn’t ask for more. I have no doubt that I made the right choice for me. My only advice to you is this: consider all of your options and base your decision on what is best for you and your child. Be strong and know that it is your decision to make. I wish you and your baby the best of luck.