Leslie’s Story

leslie1My name is Leslie and I’m 30 years old. It was completely unexpected when I found out I was pregnant. I had no way to contact the baby’s father and knew right away I couldn’t parent my baby by myself. She deserved so much more than I could give her at the time. I decided to look into adoption. The ability to have an open adoption was very important to me. Even though I didn’t feel that I could parent her, I still wanted to be a big part of her life. I wanted her to know who I was and that I love her. Most importantly, I wanted her to know that by placing her for adoption I was giving her the best gift I could give, a stable and loving family. I was doing it because of my love for her.

My dad told me he would support me in my decision of open adoption, and has been by my side the entire time. He loves my daughter with all his heart and wanted to be a part of her life as well.

When I contacted the Adoption Services of Catholic Charities, I was scared and confused. I had no idea what it was I needed to do and I had a lot of questions. The counselors were a big help. They answered all of my questions and helped me to make the adoption plan that I wanted for my baby. Because I wanted an open adoption, I chose to select the adoptive family and to meet them before my baby’s birth.

leslie2Kylee was born on September 22. She went home from the hospital with the adoptive family I had chosen. I am very close with Kylee’s family and I am in touch with them regularly through email. We have a great relationship! I visit with Kylee and her family every few months. Her family keeps me updated with all of her “firsts” and sends me tons of pictures. Kylee knows me as her “Lele” and when she is old enough to understand, she’ll know that I am her Birth Mother and that by placing her for adoption I was doing what was best for her.

I think about Kylee everyday! I can honestly say that although it has been hard at times, that I have no regrets about placing her for adoption. Seeing her beautiful smile and watching her grow and excel with this loving family is a daily reminder I did the right thing.

I wish you the best of luck in planning for your child. Trust your own feelings and you will make the plan that is best for you and your baby.